How to deal with a narcissist

(back to Narcissism)

1. Radical acceptance: This is it.
2. Realistic expectations: It will REALLY NEVER CHANGE 
3. Be less involved
4. Don’t take things personally: It is never about you, it is all about him/her
5. Stop explaining yourself: He/she will not listen
6. Stop defending yourself: He/she will not listen
7. Stop trying to fix it: see point 2
8. Surround yourself with healthy people, who will help you to dismantle ‘gaslighting’ 
9. Don’t use his/her background story to NOT hold him/her accountable for his/her behaviour: Self-preservation is a right!
10.  Focus on the here and now: “Nice moments from the past are no guarantee for the future“ 
11. If possible: avoid contact: It is a fulltime job!

“Self-compassion works the same way against the narcissist as kryptonite does against Superman”

Dr. Ramani Durvasula

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